Ezekiel Frederic "Zeke" Kisling

December 9, 1964 - May 21, 2018
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Ezekiel Frederic “Zeke” Kisling, age 53 years, died suddenly at home on Monday, May 21, 2018.

Born in Hollywood, CA, December 9, 1964, son of Ellen Grossman and the late Keith Kisling, Zeke was raised in the East Village section of New York City, NY. He later lived in Sunnyside, Queens, NY, Princeton, NJ and had resided in the Hopewell Valley, NJ area for the past twenty-one years.

The term, “Renaissance Man” is defined as, “a person with many talents or areas of knowledge.” An extremely talented and humble person, Zeke truly embodies that definition in all regards, however he would not want to be remembered as a definition as he never wanted to “fit” into any “category”. His depth of thinking and heartfelt continual search for answers to questions on all aspects of life preclude him from being defined in any particular way.

An artistic personality was his hallmark and he studied fine art in school. He appreciated a huge variety of art in all forms; from music to books, from paintings to photography, Zeke loved it all. He was a devoted minimalist from his youth and this attitude helped propel his lifelong study of all subjects.

If one wanted to try and define Zeke, in addition to being a, “Renaissance Man,” one would certainly say he was a, “people person.” Having friends from pre-school on up, he kept close-ties with each of them. Extremely kind and caring, he had a passion for trying to form a connection and find common ground with every person he ever met. From the prince to someone down on their luck, Zeke had a wonderful ability to just make everyone feel special. He was kind and gentle, yet very strong and masculine all at the same time.

Skepticism was part of Zeke’s psyche and he approached life with a healthy sense of skepticism which should not be confused with him being a negative person. It simply means he questioned why things were they way they were, and tried to learn as much as he could about all life threw at him. In particular, he had a fascination with the study of linguistics and was always trying to find better ways that one’s thoughts in their mind could be properly expressed through speech and writing.

A survivor of the attacks of September 11th, he barely escaped Tower One and that experience left a lasting impact on Zeke, as it did for so many. Losing so many friends was very hard on Zeke, especially with a very young family himself. However, that in itself it what helped him rise beyond that day, heal, and help try to make the world a better place through his simple kindnesses.

To those whose hearts are heavy by the sudden death of Zeke, please think the way he would want his friends and family to think, summed by in a simple phrase by one of his favorite authors, Kurt Vonnegut, “So it goes.” Remembering this phrase daily should remind everyone to live each day to the fullest so that life is lived with as few regrets as possible.

In addition to his father, he was preceded by his maternal grandfather, with whom he was extremely close, Harold Grossman, as well as by two of his, “fur-babies,” his cats Remus and Romulus, and his daughter’s beloved Thoroughbred horse, Hutch.

Surviving are his wife Yvette Laura Montero Kisling, with whom he joined hands in marriage on September 29, 1990 at the United Nations Chapel in New York City; his son, Luc Braedon Kisling; his daughter, Heather Autumn Kisling; his mother, Ellen Grossman; his sister and brother-in-law, Dr. Sasha Hilchuk and Joseph Levy; his mother-in-law and her husband, Terry and Michael Enright; his brother-in-law and sisters-in-law, Santiago Montero, Marlene Montero, Leslie Montero and Marilou Montero; his three cats, Jasper, Gussie and Joey; many half-siblings, cousins, and extended family; and many dear friends.

A celebration of Zeke’s life will take place at 3:00 p.m. on Saturday, June 2, 2018 at Wright & Ford Family Funeral Home and Cremation Services, 38 State Highway 31, Flemington, NJ.

Family and friends are invited to gather and reflect on Zeke’s amazing life from 1:00-3:00 p.m., prior to the life celebration service, at the funeral home.

Please visit Zeke’s permanent memorial site at www.wrightfamily.com where one can light a memorial candle and leave a message of condolence and words of comfort, as well as share stories and photographs of his life.

In lieu of flowers, friends have set-up a GoFundMe page to assist with final expenses as well as Luc and Heather’s college education.  Please click HERE to be taken to the donation page. Any and all contributions are greatly appreciated by the family.

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Visitation Information

Date: Saturday, June 2, 2018

Time: 1:00 pm - 3:00 pm

Wright & Ford Family Funeral Home and Cremation Services, "A Life Celebration Home"

Address:

38 State Highway 31
Flemington, NJ 08822

Service Information

Date: Saturday, June 2, 2018

Time: 3:00 pm - 3:45 pm

Wright & Ford Family Funeral Home and Cremation Services, "A Life Celebration Home"

Address:

38 State Highway 31
Flemington, NJ 08822

A celebration of life service will begin promptly at 3:00 p.m.


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Born: December 9, 1964
 
February 28, 2002
Zeke starts photoshop freelancing again after loss of friends in 9/11 event
Zeke starts photoshop freelancing again after loss of friends in 9/11 event
 
December 9, 1964
Born in Hollywood, California to Keith Kisling & Ellen Grossman
Born in Hollywood, California to Keith Kisling & Ellen Grossman
 
May 21, 2018
Died on Monday, 21 May 2018 at the age of 53 years
Died on Monday, 21 May 2018 at the age of 53 years
Died: May 21, 2018

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Please know that we are here for all of you, however we may be of service.

Respectfully,

D.J. Wright and the entire Wright & Ford Life Celebration Care Team Family

 

Elaine posted on 6/11/18

In memory of Ezekiel Frederic "Zeke" Kisling, Elaine lit a candle

 

Elaine posted on 6/11/18

Dear Ellen, May Zeke’s memory be a blessing in your life.My Condolences to you and your family. Elaine Forrest

 

melena kisling posted on 6/9/18

i wish we had more time to get to know each other. rest in peace. i will miss you forever

 

Yvette Cohen posted on 6/4/18

Dear Ellen, I am so sorry to hear this very sad news. My condolences to you and your family. Sending you a hug and warm thoughts. Yvette

 

Anne Finkelstein posted on 6/4/18

Ellen I am so saddened and shocked to hear this. Please feel my love and concern for you and your family. xxx Anne

 

Aguy Eugene posted on 6/3/18

I send my condolences to the family. May God give strength and courage to the whole family.

 

Robert Alexander posted on 6/2/18

To Luke, Heather, and the Kisling family I wish to extend my deepest sympathies for your sudden loss. Mr. A

 

Jessamyn Lowy posted on 6/1/18

Zeke was a very dear friend of mine from when we were in elementary school until we were teens. We drifted apart for a while, but I always thought of him fondly as well as his mom Ellen and his sister Sasha. I remember Zeke this way: funny, energetic, creative, kind, sensitive, and generous. One of the things I remember Zeke saying to me when we were kids was "my treat!" That would quickly follow anytime he asked if I'd like a candy, a soda, or a toy, etc. Zeke had a way of making fun things out of nothing, like teaching me how to make a space ship or a racing car out of an empty box of candy. Zeke was very blunt with me about questions regarding my sexual orientation when we were pre-teens. He realized I was Gay before I could accept it myself, and yet he questioned me with no judgement at all. I will always be grateful to him for that. Zeke encouraged me and others to think way beyond the box of an average human. I will always appreciate and be amazed by that. Zeke, I pray that you have found much peace wherever you are. I will always miss you and I will always wish we had stayed in touch. I hope you have found the friends that perished in the World Trade Center on the other side as well as many others who loved and cherished you here. With Much Love, Jessamyn

 

Selena, Fernando and Diego Persico posted on 6/1/18

Zeke touched our hearts and brought to this world a unique intelligence, humor, creativity and kindness.What a love of life he had and yet, so gentle a soul! It is with real sorrow that we send condolences and prayers of comfort and healing for all his family and friends.

 

Lynn Braender posted on 5/31/18

My heart goes out to you, Yvette, and your family. Zeke was such a strong and loving force in life. His passing will leave an empty space. I am truly sorry for your loss.

 

Quin Bakaty posted on 5/30/18

Oh Zeker-Man, I am so sorry you are not here, but I know you are THERE. As it always was, you are ahead of me old friend. To all his family, my deepest condolences. To Zeke, my love always.

 

Kim Seibert posted on 5/30/18

I remember the first time I met Zeke. I was in awe of him. He was a man of talent, passion for life, incredibly intelligent and well spoken. He loved his wife and family. Yvette and Zeke were the godparents of one of my children. He will be missed.

 

Danny Freyer posted on 5/30/18

Zeke, old friend. You have a place in my heart. Thank you for your friendship those many years ago. Summer camp and traveling across the West I have many memories of our trip buddy. I am so glad I saw you once in recent years but wish I’d seen you more. Tho I know you’d not want anyone to have regrets. I am glad to know you got to be a husband and father and know those joys. My heart goes out to your loved ones Your memory is blessed. Your spirit inspires us still.

 

Sarah Elsayed posted on 5/29/18

so very sorry for your loss, Zeke was a wonderful guy who always made an effort to be kind to others.

 

Leslie Silverman posted on 5/29/18

In memory of Ezekiel Frederic "Zeke" Kisling, Leslie Silverman lit a candle

 

Leslie Silverman posted on 5/29/18

Luc- I’m so sorry for your loss. Sending you strength and holding you and your family in the light.

 

Bridget Simpson posted on 5/29/18

Deep condolences to Zeke's family and friends- both the "real world" and cyber world. I knew Zeke as a zippy word guy on A Way With Words's group, and always knew a notification for one of his posts would lead to a lively discussion. I posted a photo of my garden, which includes plants that are special to me as they were some of my grandmother's perennial favorites. Some of the plants may have actually come from her flowers, as we have had them divided and shared widely over the years. Hosta, iris, and bleeding hearts are very special, and I hope that you all find moments of peace with your many wonderful memories. There really are no ideal words at this time, but there is sincerity.

 

Ami Harbig posted on 5/29/18

So very sorry to hear about Zeke, the world is a darker place without his bright light. Hugs to everyone 💐💔💐

 

Ami Harbig posted on 5/29/18

So very sorry to hear about Zeke, the world is a darker place without his bright light. Hugs to everyone 💐💔💐

 

Dale Silverman posted on 5/28/18

I am still devastated by Zeke's early and sudden passing. We were both freelancers (he as a designer, me as an editor) at Harrison & Star and were introduced just a week before his untimely death. We became Facebook friends his last weekend. I'm going to miss my new friend. My heart and sincere condolences go out to his friends and family, especially his two children. RIP, Zeke.

 

mattie matthews posted on 5/28/18

I'm so very sorry.

 

Ignacio Montero posted on 5/28/18

We are very sorry for your loss, you are all in our prayers from your cousin. May God look over all of you and guide you is this hard time. You will be reunited soon, don’t give up and be strong. With love, Ignacio E. Montero & Kyle L. Montero

 

Ronald Bansak II posted on 5/27/18

I worked with Zeke frequently for years when we both were at Euro before it became H4B. He was amazingly talented, hard working and driven to do great work. He was just as good of a guy. I enjoyed his intellect, his wit and friendship. We would often talk warmly about what we were doing with our kids on the weekends. We had reconnected awhile back on FB, which I was glad for, texting about hiking trips we each had gone on with our kids. My heart breaks for his family, knowing how much he loved them. I’m sure he was a great dad. My deepest condolences to all his family. May time heal your hearts, and the pain be replaced by happy memories of the time together and love you shared. ❤️

 

Ronald Bansak II posted on 5/27/18

I worked with Zeke frequently for years when we both were at Euro before it became H4B. He was amazingly talented, hard working and driven to do great work. He was just as good of a guy. I enjoyed his intellect, his wit and friendship. We would often talk warmly about what we were doing with our kids on the weekends. We had reconnected awhile back on FB, which I was glad for, texting about hiking trips we each had gone on with our kids. My heart breaks for his family, knowing how much he loved them. I’m sure he was a great dad. My deepest condolences to all his family. May time heal your hearts, and the pain be replaced by happy memories of the time together and love you shared. ❤️

 

Robert Krell posted on 5/27/18

Books, art, life, politics. Zeke spoke about everything with intelligence and compassion. He thought deeply about everything he did, about every event that occurred in his life, about every person as a human being. Zeke had his own approach to life; his compass set in a direction few of us take; ambitious mostly to help others. His passing is a loss to us all, but a consolation that we have known a man as gentle, smart, understanding, and loving as Zeke who will live always with us in loving spirit and fond memory.

 

Joyce and Peter Heisen posted on 5/27/18

Oh no! Yvette and kids, we are so sorry. Let us know how we can help. Love, Joyce, Peter and Jessica

 

Cohen David posted on 5/27/18

Paix à son âme

 

Helena Moseman posted on 5/26/18

Still in shock over the sudden passing of the wonderful human that was Zeke. His storytelling and love of words is what I'll remember along with his kind heart and gentle ways. I wish his family peace as they deal with his loss. You are all in my thoughts.

 

Alice Fernandes-Brown posted on 5/26/18

We are all still dealing with the sad & sudden passing of our friend, Zeke. Unique mind, gentle soul, loving heart You will be missed very much. Sending love & comfort Alice, George & Rachel Brown

 

Ruth posted on 5/26/18

My Dearest Yvette, Luc and Heather. My heart breaks with you. There are no sufficient words. I send love and healing

 

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